If Your Life Sucks Chances Are It’s Your Fault

By Nico Lagan
September 25, 2023
By Nico Lagan
September 25, 2023

For a long time I believed that the biggest problem we face today was the lack of masculinity, but I was wrong. It’s just a symptom of a much larger issue. What is tearing our society apart is much simpler. Every single issue imaginable can be boiled down to someone not doing what they are supposed to do. It is our lack of accountability that is at the root of all evil.

As John Stuart Mill famously said “The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing”

We would rather take out cellphone out and record than land a hand to a stranger in need. We have become a society of victim. We don’t want to own up to our failures and responsibilities. We are waiting for a night in shining armor to come and rescue. Here’s a fun fact for you, no one is coming to save you. You’re on your own and the faster you realize this the better. Your family, loved ones, community and country depend on you. They need you to step up to the plate.

If your life sucks, chances are, it’s your fault!

The first steps of any addiction recovery programs is to admit that you have a problem, when it comes to accountability your problem is you! Yes you! You have the power to make your life a living hell. But that also means that you have the power to make it a great one. It is all on you! You and only you can make it better and accepting this is the key to your salvation.

Put your cellphone down for a minute and go to your bathroom. I want you to take a good look in a mirror and repeat these words: I am the problem! I am the solution!

Feel better?

Probably not, I’m ready to bet you feel worse. Taking accountability for our lives is never easy. It actually sucks! That’s why most people never will. No one changes because they feel great. It’s when shit hits the fan that we start considering it. When we realize that we are hurting, that we can’t keep going on this way. When doing the same thing over and over again is no longer possible. Pain and suffering are the greatest teachers and hitting rock bottom is the only driving force that will make us want to change. Because change is hard, it requires sacrifice.

This book is not about pointing fingers. I’m not here to blame or shame you for your wrongdoings. I’m far from perfect. I’ve done a lot of things I’m not proud of. For a longtime I was very selfish, I didn’t care about the repercussions of my actions, and I’ve hurt a lot of people I loved in the process. But what’s done is done. There is nothing you and I can do about the past and letting guilt destroy our present and future is not the solution. Accepting your past will set you free. The goal is to forgive yourself for your shortcoming and focus on moving forward. And becoming accountable is the only way!

Remember, if your life sucks, it’s your fault so do something about it!

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